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219: From Librarian to Developer: w/ Roxy Rodriguez-Becker

Recorded live at All Things Open, Robbie and guest co-host Jason Torres talk with Roxy Rodriquez-Becker about her journey from educator and librarian to aspiring developer, the community supporting her transition, navigating motherhood and advocacy, and how he...

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RobbieTheWagner
Jason Torres
Roxy Rodbeck

Show Notes

Recorded live at All Things Open, Robbie and guest co-host Jason Torres talk with Roxy Rodriquez-Becker about her journey from educator and librarian to aspiring developer, the community supporting her transition, navigating motherhood and advocacy, and how her son’s medical challenges inspired her to build a life-changing G-tube feeding app.

In this episode:

  • (00:00) - Working Edit
  • (01:03) - Wine rating and review: San Simeon Cabernet Sauvignon
  • (02:35) - Meet Roxy
  • (03:04) - From teaching and libraries to tech
  • (05:38) - How Roxy is learning to code
  • (06:24) - Inside the “Chosen One” series
  • (07:35) - The support systems behind Roxy's move to coding
  • (09:14) - Navigating a public job hunt and being in the spotlight
  • (11:30) - Roxy’s advice for getting out of your comfort zone
  • (12:43) - Roxy’s background in content creation
  • (14:35) - How Roxy juggles parenting, work, and learning to code
  • (16:51) - How her son’s medical journey inspired the Tube Feed app
  • (28:03) - Why advocating for yourself is harder than advocating for others
  • (30:00) - What pulled Roxy back into tech
  • (32:01) - Growing up Cuban and Catholic
  • (35:30) - How Roxy's upbringing shapes how she raises her kids
  • (36:33) - Why Roxy chose software engineering specifically
  • (38:33) - Robbie's biggest strength and biggest weakness
  • (39:27) - Guilty pleasure TV shows
  • (40:43) - What success looks like for Roxy
  • (42:41) - Where to find Roxy online

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Episode Transcript

Intro: Welcome to Syntax. Welcome to a brand new episode of the Front End Happy Hour podcast. Welcome to this week’s JS Party. Live from Ship Shape Studios, this is Whiskey Web and Whatnot. With your hosts, Robbie the Wagner, and me, Charles William Carpenter III. That’s right Charles. We drink whiskey and talk about web development.

Intro: I mean, it’s all in the name. It’s not that deep. This is Whiskey Web and Whatnot. Do not adjust your set.

Jason: We are live right now. Holy cow. , We don’t have the fun intro today, but we have an even better intro. We have the one, the only whiskey web and whatnot slash tech commute collab. What’s up, Robbie

Robbie Wagner: what’s up The cabernet

Robbie Wagner: commute. Yes.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Cabernet

Jason: Commute.

Robbie Wagner: You gotta have the alliteration.

Jason: right. Cabernet Commute is live.

Jason: It is Monday, October 13th.

Robbie Wagner: It is,

Jason: Robbie, what are we drinking

Robbie Wagner: we are drinking the San Simeon Cabernet. So Manon

Jason: Holler

Robbie Wagner: from, , I don’t know. I don’t know anything else about it.

Jason: from Costco.

Robbie Wagner: Yeah, it actually is. I get most of my wine from Costco. Yeah, they have good wine. It’s not Costco brand. It’s

Robbie Wagner: like,

Jason: No, it’s not Kirkland’s signature Cabernet, which would be fantastic, but while he, oh, I love that. Listen to that. A SMR.

Robbie Wagner: Pass it down.

Jason: We’re burying the headline here. , It’s probably because the headline’s actually just below the table on a booster seat.

Jason: Yeah.

Jason: Ladies and gentlemen, welcome the one, the only Roxana.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: oh, Ana Maria Rodriguez

Jason: Yeah. Say the whole thing. That what

Robbie Wagner: that’s what you were gonna say, right? Yeah.

Jason: Guys. Roxy’s here. How exciting is this? This is super fun. , I’m getting you Chinese. Oh. Taylor’s getting me Chinese food.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Well, I just got the alert that Whiskey Web is live and so are

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: you.

Jason: Shut up. We are. It’s great to see you.

Robbie Wagner: I did not spill wine everywhere. If anyone was wondering,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: not on

Jason: your shirt is indicating otherwise

Robbie Wagner: Hey, it’s, it’s like, uh, same color as this,

Robbie Wagner: it’s fine.

Robbie Wagner: It’s

Jason: Um, Roxy, we’re, we’re gonna deep dive in here, but let’s, let’s maybe do a Cheers. You wanna do a toast first? Chuck? Chuck and Robbie,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: what?

Jason: Chuck.

Jason: Jesus Christ.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Chuck?

Robbie Wagner: I don’t have,

Robbie Wagner: uh, I don’t have any, uh, toast ready

Robbie Wagner: for you, but.

Jason: That’s fine. That’s fine.

Jason: So Roxy, why don’t you introduce yourself to everybody that doesn’t know who you are.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I’m Roxy. I used to work in film.

Jason: too soon.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I work in education. I am making the transition into tech and I talk about the tube feed tracker a lot ‘cause that’s like what I’ve put out there.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I have a talk in a couple weeks at Magnolia Comp,

Jason: Shout out to

Robbie Wagner: yeah, one of the conferences in October.

Jason: one of the

Jason: many, one of the many.

Jason: , Roxy, talk to us a little bit about your background. Obviously in tech commute, we kind of deep dive that, and I wanna know. Why tech? What were you doing before that? , Where are you transitioning from?

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: from Education.

Jason: Education. Um,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: yeah, so I, used to be a math teacher, a middle school math teacher, and then when we started having children, I.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Transitioned

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: into the library in Texas, you have to have a master’s in library and information science to be a librarian, which is super ironic at the moment.

Jason: Why is that ironic

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Why is that? Because they’re mostly just burning books over there. But, you know,

Jason: geez. I think you’re

Robbie Wagner: That’s, that’s the

Robbie Wagner: best way to consume the knowledge. Yeah.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: but yeah, so I’ve been in the library for a few years now and it’s great because. you know, I don’t have a, I’m not tied to a classroom, so I have a little more freedom to do stuff like

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: this. And, , yeah, so I dabbled in web development, like super basic stuff, like everyone says, like MySpace. I had a live journal, stuff like that. And then I took a web development course as part of my master’s program and one of the girls in my class needed a lot of help. And so that was really fun and I was like, oh my gosh, I forgot that I really love doing this.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: And one of the roles as a librarian, you do, you do so much stuff, like it’s not just books. so,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I manage the title budget at my school and like, it’s a lot of documentation and paperwork and like chasing people around. And, , I also do the website and social media for our school. And so like, I usually do a lot of the graphics so I managed the website and so that’s also been like super cool. And then through that, people at Lela’s at my kids’ school found out that I was trying to transition to tech. And so now I volunteer with like PTO, I’m gonna do their auction website. And then, through that I am also volunteering with the Houston area suicide.

Jason: prevention,

Robbie Wagner: prevention.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Yeah. It’s the prevention. It’s the prevention coalition. Well, I was trying to remember if it was

Jason: awareness Wait, so Hughes,

Jason: HSPC?

Robbie Wagner: Yes.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Yeah. But yeah,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: so I am, so I, I do, uh, help out with their website as well. Um, yeah, the prevention look, I thought, I was like, is it awareness or prevention?

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Because you can.

Robbie Wagner: Yeah. Just like this, this is a time we need to not have a pause,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: pause. No. So what’s awful is like whenever I’m writing notes or like trying to schedule something, like I keep putting like suicide meeting or something and I’m like, okay, this is like, probably need to

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: put

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: the

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: acronym

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: in there and stuff. Like lay stuff like, oh, I have a suicide meeting at 3:00 PM today.

Jason: Well, uh, I mean, based on what you said and how you sort of framed it, it sounds like there’s a ton

Jason: of transferable skills there, and I’m curious, like, are you boot camping it or how are you learning how to code?

Jason: Obviously that like entry level course at

Jason: college

Jason: isn’t

Jason: gonna get you there.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Yeah, started with free code camp and then I discovered a hundred devs and so I’ve been going through those courses and I’m a really big part of that community now. there’s the whole

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: series

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: going on

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: that’s, I think it’s kind series

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I think it’s kind of on hold. No, I think it’s kind of on, I think it’s kind of on hold right now because of the, , ‘cause of hunt tober, which is super cool.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: But yes, it’s called the Chosen one series

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: and it’s not

Jason: What is that? Give

Jason: us some context. ‘cause I’m sure Ravi has

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: no idea

Jason: the fuck you’re

Robbie Wagner: I don’t, I don’t,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: ,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: So, you know, Leon Noelle from a hundred, Deb.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: What

Robbie Wagner: is that the Leon from the podcast with Danny? Yes. Okay. I, I didn’t know his last

Robbie Wagner: name,

Robbie Wagner: but I know Leon. Yeah.

Robbie Wagner: Yeah.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I mean, it’s

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: not actually his

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: last

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: name,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: it’s

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: just

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: his

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: first

Jason: if you notice. Yeah. It’s just reversed.

Jason: Leon

Jason: Noelle. Yeah.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: So in case

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: anyone

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: didn’t

Jason: just got that

Jason: and you guys all got to

Jason: see

Jason: it

Robbie Wagner: All right. All right. I’m done. I’ll see you guys.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: , Yeah, so he selected somebody from the community to kind of like go through the job hunt process in public and like you have to do everything the correct way.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: So since April, like I’ve been correctly job hunting. , And I’ve had a few interviews recently. I feel like I’m getting close. So, it’s a great program. Everybody, the community is amazing.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: We’ve got Lucas sitting

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: over there,

Jason: Yeah. Lucas, a hundred, a hundred devs sitting across

Jason: from us. There’s

Jason: actually several here. Yeah.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Yes.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Um,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: is

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: that?

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Teron unique?

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Yeah.

Jason: Yeah. Dewan, I think I met in, uh, the, the big No

Jason: there’s

Jason: multiple other ones anyway.

Jason: How has that

Jason: been for

Jason: you to have.

Jason: Kind of an external support system through all of this. Uh, a hundred devs community’s obviously super supportive and positive. Being

Jason: a member

Jason: of myself,

Jason: I

Jason: totally

Jason: understand,

Jason: but

Jason: like

Jason: trying to self-teach or self-learn and then doing that while you’re working and having a family, and obviously Daniel, your, your husband supports you, but like how important has it been for you as far as progress to have that external support as well?

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Yeah. So I’ve been super lucky that my family has been extremely supportive because especially with like traveling to conferences and. A lot of people, you know, it’s like, why, why do you keep going? Why? And and honestly, it’s like an investment for myself and I’ve been able to like finagle, like either discounted tickets or free tickets.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: of all the conferences I’ve been to, I think I’ve only paid for maybe three of them. and that was mostly at the beginning. I did pay for this one though ‘cause I really enjoy a TO ‘cause I really did enjoy it last year and so I got an early bird ticket. But, Yeah, so I’m grateful for their support.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: My, you know, obviously Daniel with the kids and everything every day, and he tries to do it himself even though my parents are there to help. , Yeah, my parents and my sister, and my mother-in-law and, you know, they’re all helping. So make this possible. The Torque community has been incredibly supportive as well as the hundred devs community that we’ve been talking about, although, being in the job hunt spotlight, definitely, it takes its toll because you already have I already have all this pressure that I put on myself. And then, you know, there’s the added pressure of like, okay, like everyone’s watching and waiting and somebody over the summer compared it to like a TV show. And I’m like, okay, well we’ve hit a plateau and TV show’s a little boring at the

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: moment, so.

Jason: The Truman Show of code. Um, well talk about that a little bit. Like how are you adjusting

Jason: or how

Jason: are

Jason: you handling that? Because I mean,

Jason: without it,

Jason: this

Jason: is already a hard process.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Adjusting to the what? The stress?

Jason: No, the, public

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: eye on

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: your

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: whole

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Oh, journey

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Oh. Um, so luckily, , being a mom that works full time and like, most of my spare moments are taken like I’m on my computer or with my kids or whatever.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I don’t have a lot of time to overthink things.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Shut

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: up.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like, you know, I get imposter syndrome, but I, it doesn’t last long because I just don’t have the time. Like I have to brush it off and keep going.

Jason: Okay. I was gonna ask what you meant by it

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: doesn’t

Jason: long. How do you move past

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: it,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: don’t know. I guess I kind of talk to people, talk to the community. ‘cause everybody you know, they go through the same thing. And that was another thing because I feel like Leon chose me because I’m a little more social and that’s something that a lot of people need to work on.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Like, I have tons of

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: stuff

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: to work on, but

Jason: networking.

Jason: Like what?

Jason: No,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like, no. Like the actual studying and coding and everything, like, you know, I can always be better. but the fact that, you know, I’m sharing about my imposter syndrome, you know, it resonates with, with everyone.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: And I guess just being open about it, I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: don’t know, it

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: just kind

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: of

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: connects everybody.

Jason: you finding that hard, like that vulnerability

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: lately,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: , It’s mostly all written out, so it’s been really easy. But the first few, like streams. When like, we were getting into the hard hitting subject matter and working on the behavioral interview questions and everything. I think there was like one or two where I like almost cried. But,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: you

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: know,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I, I was able to compose myself. Well,

Jason: Well, let me, let me ask you about that. Like,

Jason: when you

Jason: think about like, what caused that emotion, what was that like,

Jason: what was

Jason: the action

Jason: that caused that? Was it like the, again, like the pressure of the situation or like the kind of that overarching theme of like

Jason: what

Jason: this

Jason: process

Jason: is

Jason: for you.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: again, stepping

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: outta your

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I think I don’t, yeah, I think it was just, I can’t even remember, but like, I think it was just the question that I was answering that just kind of hit a nerve because it was, yeah.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I don’t, I just, I don’t remember the specifics, but it was

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: just coming outta

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: my comfort zone I think.

Jason: You’re obviously a little bit more comfortable with doing it now. Do you have any tips for anybody that is also struggling?

Jason: This is a

Jason: hard

Jason: one. I mean,

Jason: I, I think struggling

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: what specifically?

Jason: outta comfort zones a little bit and like getting comfortable with being uncomfortable.

Jason: I think

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: yeah.

Jason: of that in what we do.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Yeah. So LinkedIn, , is pretty intimidating for a lot of people

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: and

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: so

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I started

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: that

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: series. Your

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: favorite, your favorite

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: series. Called, , treating LinkedIn like a

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: blog. And look, somebody at CYC stopped me and they were like, Hey, you stopped posting your blog series on LinkedIn.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I really miss it.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: was

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like,

Robbie Wagner: what?

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: And

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: so

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: had

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: to

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: find

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: you

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: and

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: tell

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: you

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: because I was like, oh my

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: gosh.

Jason: she did,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: But it worked. Like, so I posted probably like once a week or something, just like what I was working on, what I was doing, whatever. And it just helped, um,, because I used to be a blogger, so like. Writing isn’t that’s not the hard part, it’s the like putting myself out there on LinkedIn somewhere that seems like it’s totally business. that helped me with putting myself out there on LinkedIn. And then gradually I talked about what I was like working on and what projects I was doing, because

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: think

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: that

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: was the

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: scarier part,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: was the building in public.

Jason: Can you talk about that whole process again for. Your background as far as like you’ve done content

Jason: creation and

Jason: stuff like

Jason: that.

Jason: what’s

Jason: what’s the background there?

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Oh, yes.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: So I used to run a lifestyle blog,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: , ger feisty.com. It is since. Gone away. Like I completely wiped it from the internet. , Because like before kids, it was like lifestyle blog and I, collaborated with brands and stuff, and then after kids, like it became more of a mommy blog and I did a lot of brand collabs, but it was like Pampers and, and then I talked about Sebastian and his like condition and everything a lot and, and then I was like, you know what, this is just a lot of information and maybe , this stuff doesn’t need to be out there, like all this private stuff about Sebastian’s condition and everything.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: So. I was like, whatever, I’m just gonna delete this. And then like the next year I was like, oh, and now I want to transition to tech and I, all, my content is completely gone. So, you know. Cool.

Jason: hindsight’s 2020, I suppose.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: So I still do brand some brand collaboration on Instagram. , A lot of it is mostly like family content, but, , I feel like I keep it comical.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I’ll post my kids and stuff like in stories, but. for example, Lucas saved that picture of the, oops, your late sign. And like everybody knows that sign now. It says, oops, you’re late. Students should

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: be

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: in class

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: by seven 30.

Robbie Wagner: Yeah. I’ve seen that a lot. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I know, I know. I’ve seen it. Yeah. So.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: So yeah. And I, I actually took the other day after school,

Robbie Wagner: the

Robbie Wagner: kids all

Robbie Wagner: closed

Robbie Wagner: with it.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I got a picture of that

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: with the infamous sign because it’s freaking seven 30 in the morning.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: pretty early.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: because I look, I wake up at like four sometimes earlier, but they just take forever or like we’re out going out the door.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Someone has to poop. Or if Sebastian’s vomiting, like

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: it’s

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: just,

Robbie Wagner: yep, just

Robbie Wagner: apparently

Jason: I never,

Robbie Wagner: I love this.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: this

Jason: segue

Jason: for time management. Um.

Jason: Let’s talk

Jason: about that though, because I think, I think that that’s something that you’ve probably, I don’t wanna say mastered, but have certainly worked through and

Jason: kind of iterated

Jason: on because

Jason: full-time

Jason: job,

Jason: full-time mom

Jason: also trying to learn like how are you

Jason: kind of

Jason: managing

Jason: all of this and like still functioning.

Jason: I’m

Jason: not functioning,

Jason: it’s all,

Jason: it’s a facade.

Jason: Alright, there we

Jason: go.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I suck at studying at night because I will just get sleepy and be like, Nope. And then close my laptop. , I used to try to study like in bed and that didn’t work.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: And so just, you know, you just have to make like the changes. I set up my desk area. I got the second monitor. I realized that like waking up early is the way to go.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: And

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: that’s why I work out in the morning, because you don’t have all the things that happen to you throughout the day that affect your mood, that make you tired, that like, make you just be like, no, thanks,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I’ll

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: do it

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: tomorrow.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: So, you know, I wake up at, it

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: used to

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: be

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: three

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: 30,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I

Robbie Wagner: oof.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: on that, but it’s, it’s been four. I I know,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I know. And then like, I would go to bed like, mm, like 10 o’clock. But that’s why it’s been four, because lately I’ve been going to bed closer to 11, which is ridiculous. I know. And so.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Like

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: one night a week, I basically

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like crash out

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: at 8:00 PM and like

Jason: It happens. I mean, it’s, it’s your

Jason: body

Jason: catching up with you though.

Robbie Wagner: But yeah, I don’t understand how like anyone, you have to have a lot of willpower and drive to want to do that. Like. Because I’m like, oh my God, I have one hour of free time. Ain’t no way I’m doing something productive.

Robbie Wagner: Like

Robbie Wagner: I’m going to sit on the couch,

Jason: Yeah.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Yeah. well, so in the evenings I am too tired to do any of that. So like. you know, you walk into your room just like plop

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: stomach down,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like pull

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: out

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: your

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: phone and just like,

Jason: is that

Jason: is that you do,

Jason: Robbie?

Robbie Wagner: That’s not

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: what I

Jason: personally do. No. you lay

Jason: on your

Jason: tummy and

Jason: scroll

Jason: TikTok

Jason: with your

Robbie Wagner: kicking

Jason: your

Jason: feet

Jason: around

Jason: like

Jason: a teenage girl.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Um, no, but it’s just funny because like the way our bed is, like when you walk into the hallway, you just see my feet like sticking off and like that’s. Just what it looks like when I’m like veg out, like my brain’s going numb for a few minutes before like bedtime or dinner or something.

Jason: What are you doing and how do you

Jason: find

Jason: time to

Jason: not be focused on something?

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: how do I find time to veg out?

Jason: Yeah, I

Jason: don’t,

Jason: I

Jason: just,

Jason: it

Jason: just

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: happens.

Jason: You just kind of, it, You

Jason: just get it when you get it.

Jason: Nah, I get that.

Jason: Talk to us a little bit about. The app, the feed tube

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Oh, okay. Well, Okay.

Jason: Okay. well

Jason: and give us a little background, and I know,

Jason: uh, obviously you’ve talked about it ad nauseum, but at the same time, I think this is sort of important storyline material for your journey here.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Yeah, I know. And I just feel bad ‘cause I guess Robbie hasn’t heard it 5 million times, so I’ll pretend I’m only talking to Robbie.

Jason: Yeah.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Okay. So, . I am four 11 and three quarters, and I had twins. , I made it to my due date. I love remembering, my most difficult times when I was pregnant were, I worked at an elementary school library at the time and the parking lot, was like at one end of the building

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: and

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: the library was

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: at the

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: other. So like when I walked into the building, it was just like this massively long hallway and it felt even longer. Because when I was pregnant with Lela, the one baby,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: was fine.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: It was totally, I worked out probably to like two weeks before her due date or something with the twins. I think I had to stop a month before.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: But it seriously felt like,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: if

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: relaxed, they would

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: just fall out.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Like that’s what it felt like. And so like walking down that hallway with like this huge just stomach on this, Small body. Um, it was one of the hardest things pre having them, like before having them. So I was super proud that I made it to the due date.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Both of them were over five pounds, which was the magic number, so that they wouldn’t end up in the nicu. and like this whole time, Sebastian was like hiding behind Aric, I guess. ‘cause they couldn’t ever fully see his like organs and stuff. Like whenever they did X-rays, they were just like, oh, he’s hiding.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: And then I think. one of the doctors noticed that like there was more, , now I can’t even remember. It was like the fluid, there was more in Sebastian’s. And normally that would happen if like something was wrong, but like, nobody noticed it. Nobody caught it. Like my doctor even said like, I was like the perfect twin pregnancy, whatever.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: so then they were born and , you know, obviously they noticed something was up with Sebastian and they took him. Right away. And I lost a ton of blood and I’m anemic. So like I even needed a transfusion. I remember when they took him like, oh, I looked so out of it. They had him in this like crazy looking container.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: ‘cause they had to take him to a different hospital. ‘cause the one where I had him didn’t have like the high enough level NICU to deal with him. I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: think they drove, I don’t think they needed to fly him, but they, yeah, they took him to the downtown hospital and So he has bacterial association.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: VL is an acronym for seven different conditions. And if you have three of the seven minimum, you are like in under that umbrella AL association and it’s super rare. His main one is his respiratory condition. So I talk about that one ‘cause the other one is more private and then one of them’s a non-issue anymore, so he had esophageal.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Freesia. that means his esophagus and his trachea were connected. So like if he tried to eat or drink anything, basically it would just all go into his lungs. Um, yeah. Yeah. So like once the umbilical cord was gone, you know, like, so that was like the first operation and, he also ended up having an ostomy for like nine months.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: , But luckily we were able to like kind of deal with that around the nine, 10 month mark. So anyway, the respiratory condition. It comes with like layers. He has asthma on top of that, he has, it’s trachea. So it’s basically his trachea is like super floppy and, , so he can’t , get rid of mucus and stuff.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: So like when you’re sick and you’re coughing and like you blow your nose or you like cough up phlegm, like he can’t do that. So it ends up going into his lungs and he gets pneumonia. , And then he also has a laryngeal cleft. Like all of these things are just like. Things that are common if you already have like this one condition.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Right. So, , the laryngeal cleft we only discovered

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: After

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like the most traumatic experience of our lives. when Sebastian was like 14 months old, he was eating dinner and we were like feeding him whatever. He starts choking. And so we’re like, patting him ‘cause we’re used to the choking because , he has some scarring in his esophagus.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: And so like. When he swallows, it partially swallows and then like he swallows again, it’s like, it’s, it’s not in sync, it’s like two different swallows or whatever. So it’s called a stuckey and like kids with his condition often will have stuckey where it’s like something is stuck and usually they’ll be able to get it down eventually or they’ll throw it up.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: but he was choking and so like I flipped him over and was like hitting him on his back. I could feel him going stiff. And so like, I was like shoving my hand in his mouth and like, I felt his jaw locking up. And like, at this point I’m like screaming for Daniel. So Daniel grabs him and he’s trying, but he’s still like turning, he’s turning blue at this point.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: And my mother-in-law was visiting and she’s, , CPR certified. She’s a, A volunteer firefighter. So she was in her rv. But she had like babysat them all day. So, , I think she like fell asleep early or something. So we were like banging on the rv, like screaming. Daniel’s like doing a rescue, breathing like on Sebastian, on the hood of my car.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: , I think he like coughed or something and like, so he, he was breathing again. I called the ambulance.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I called

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: 9 1 1 and the lady was like, ma’am, you need to calm down. ‘cause I think I was just like. Screaming and, I wanted to know like how long Sebastian went without oxygen.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: So whenever we got to the hospital, like I rode in the ambulance with him his oxygen saturation was still super low. And like, while we were in the, , ambulance, he was vomiting food and like you could hear his, his chest rattling, like it was just sounding, it was like crazy. so we got to the hospital, they took him back to the OR and while he was back there.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I like looked up our ring camera and like I, I’m pretty sure he went like at least two minutes without oxygen. to this day, anything that like he’s behind on or whatever, like he’s spent so much time in hospitals like 2022, he’s like nine hospital stays and they’re all like a week or more.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: This one was three weeks because they just, that’s when they discovered the laryngeal cleft. ‘cause he had completely aspirated like his dinner into his lungs my theory because he was eating fine and drinking and he wasn’t getting sick. So my theory is that when we were like, banging on his back, trying to get him to stop choking or like sticking our, you know, our fingers down his throat, I’m pretty sure that whatever he had going on, I think we need it worse.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: And I think that that’s why now it became like such a prominent thing. so anyway, he gets pneumonia a lot and all of this to say is he. Burns a lot of calories just existing. so

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: that’s why

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: he has a G-tube now.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: that

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: was, that

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: was the

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: long version.

Jason: No, but

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: don’t usually talk

Jason: I was gonna say, I don’t think you’ve really ever shared that. I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Yeah.

Jason: multiple people here in the chat commenting on this.

Jason: Um, Yeah.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: normally talk about

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: the choking ’

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: cause

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Yeah, it

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: normally,

Jason: I, mean, he’s a parent.

Jason: I

Jason: mean, I like,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: no, like the turning blue and like the, the jaw, oh my gosh. It’s like. It’s super traumatic. I remember Daniel’s like, he ran, he would randomly have flashbacks, like every once in a while something would happen and he would just like remember like, holding this blue child, you know,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: it’s like,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: and insane. yeah.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Something like

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: that.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: You

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: know, just,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: yeah.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: And then when he was in the, or like the doctor came out super stressed ‘cause he was like, he almost choked again while he was in there. Like it was, I was, it was, it was intense. But yeah, so he has a G-tube now and he eats by mouth just fine. Like he loves.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Food I have to get on top of him because

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Sometimes

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: he won’t even chew. He’s just like eating so much and I’m

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: just like,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: child, you have

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like almost

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: died twice so I need you to please chew your food.

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Jason: Jesse thinks you are legit a badass by the way.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: thanks Jeff. , But yeah, so he has a G-tube so that he can maybe grow a little bit. ‘cause one of my jokes. Is that like obviously my DNA is not, I’m sitting on my foot right now. Like my DNA is not gonna help him, so we stopped doing the feeds ‘cause he eats so much now. So, , but that’s why he has his G-tube.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: And so like one of the million hospitals states he had in like 20 22, 20 23, the night shift nurses would struggle to figure out what the heck his feed rate should be because, even the length of time, because he would eat dinner and he would eat breakfast. But if he feeds like up until breakfast, he’s not going to eat breakfast.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: And so it’s like, do you want him to get the calories on his own or do you want him to have a knife eat? So that’s like the struggle. based on his weight, he’s supposed to have like, this many milliliters per hour, but when he’s sick, that makes him throw up. And so I have so much like bitterness towards the dieticians that would keep coming in and being like, he needs to eat this.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: And I’m like. You will vomit all of it if you try to do that. So anyway, I, I made the tube feed rate calculator, like that’s what it was, , the first round or the first couple rounds. And it’s helped the parents in the G-tube communities, uh, advocate for their kids. And like, I just got a message the other day of this woman with two babies , that have G-tubes and she was like, I can’t believe this, you know, hadn’t been invented yet, or.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Created yet or whatever. And, , it was just a really great message that, and the community that I shared it with, like a year ago, they were also like, I’m bookmarking this. I love this, yada. And so, uh, I recently upgraded it. I need to, or with the original site to the new, to the upgrade because in the upgrade, , using OpenAI you can like search specific formulas so then parents can track the calories as well as, the milliliters and stuff.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: So.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Why did you

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: decide

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: to?

Jason: this?

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I was learning to code at the time and, , I mean, I’m still, but I was like in the beginning stages and that’s why it’s like the two V rate calculators and I was like, oh, this seems like a, like a project I can do. And , I’ve always been a problem solver. I don’t think it’s just the math teacher in me because like, even as a librarian, like you know, you’re a resource.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I just, I always end up being a resource. For people. So, , it just kind of seemed natural. Daniel’s also a math teacher. We both kind of were like, we’re like, how are people not, I don’t understand, like, this is basic math, but at the same time it’s like so many people go around saying, I suck at math, I suck at math.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: And then also, like when you’re under pressure, like you have like, I don’t know how many patients in a night and something’s happening over here and over here, and you’re getting information from the dietician and the doctor and the parents. And so it’s just easier

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: to

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: be

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Let me just put the information in

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: here

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: and have

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: it tell

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: me.

Robbie Wagner: Yeah.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Yeah, I

Robbie Wagner: know how you would do

Robbie Wagner: that

Robbie Wagner: without a calculator.

Robbie Wagner: Like,

Jason: yeah.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: be like,

Robbie Wagner: eh,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: guess

Robbie Wagner: like.

Jason: It seems wild to me that there wasn’t a tool for that. that.

Jason: they

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Yeah.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Yeah. And somebody in the, in one of the tube feed communities said that they were using one that was for like, , drips, so like a IV drip or whatever. But they were like, it’s not the same as for a tube feed. And so, uh, yeah, so it’s been really helpful

Jason: how, yeah.

Jason: How have you found, I mean, obviously you very much advocate for your kids.

Jason: where

Jason: do you see the

Jason: disconnect,

Jason: where

Jason: you will fight to the death for them, but then you struggle to advocate for yourself?

Jason: This

Jason: is

Jason: just

Jason: based on conversations

Jason: you and I have had in the past about like, again, like

Jason: you’re interviewing and

Jason: like

Jason: looking

Jason: for roles or not thinking that you’re good enough to be there yet

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: when

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: you

Jason: just

Jason: put that together, like you just explained, like this

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: breaking?

Jason: app that you built.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I don’t know. Well, ‘cause you know, when I first built it, it was mainly like, it came from a problem that I saw other people having, but I kind of built it for me, I guess, because. People told me I was, they were like, this is too personal. This is too boot campy. And so like, I even, I wrote it down the other day.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I was like, I basically built this for like a traumatized mother, in the hospital room at night. Like, so, you know, it was, I made it for me and then like when other people were interested, I started having to like, make it for them as well. I just went off on a tangent that had nothing to do with your

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: question. yeah,

Jason: didn’t at all, but that’s fine.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: probably Avoidance.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Yeah.

Jason: Good avoidance can appreciate that.

Jason: I’m a

Jason: side.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: manager. What can I say?

Jason: Well, I mean, I, I think it’s important to kind of point that out because I think that you’re a very strong advocate when it’s something you are like super passionate about, like

Jason: your kids.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: They need

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: people to advocate

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: for them because they’re too little to do it right now. Hmm. I used to do

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: the

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: same for

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: dogs beforehand and for

Jason: for yourself

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: too? I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: mean,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I do, I think that’s why I post every day on Twitter, like try to hold myself accountable. people

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: have mentioned

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: that they like the

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: consistency

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: of

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: that.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I think that that’s kind of what I do on Twitter and that’s what I did on LinkedIn when I used it as a blog. Like I hold myself accountable and I try to, write about the good things. , I know you don’t wanna be unrealistic and never mention the bad things, obviously.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: It helps me and, you know, it might help other people.

Jason: You took

Jason: the,

Jason: the class that was your kind of entry into it. Why go back to that. Sorry,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Sorry,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: what

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: tech,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Like you took

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: the

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: class

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: in

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: college,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: that one

Jason: web design or whatever class.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: but

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: it was, it just reminded me of something that I had done previously that I really liked. ‘cause it was , it was a very basic class. Like I, I got an easy A , and I was glad to help someone else through it as well, so.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I mean, it felt easy, excuse me. Like I’m sure obviously like some people needed help and it was great

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: so

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: after college, I didn’t wanna go to grad school, but I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: had a

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: psych

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: degree in like, what are you gonna do with psych degree?

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: So

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I was like, I figured I’d have to get a master’s at some point, but I didn’t want to go to school again.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: So that’s how I became a teacher. I did some alternative certification courses and I wanted to teach math because my dad is an engineer and so he like forced me to do math. Like every night, like it was your typical like sitting at the kitchen table, like your dad’s like,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: do this again.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: And you’re like, ha, yay my

Robbie Wagner: Yeah, I didn’t have that problem.

Jason: Do you

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Um,

Robbie Wagner: No, I do have a dad

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: and he’s an

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: engineer, but

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: he’s not, He didn’t force it upon

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: you. So, yeah, I, uh, I got really good at math and after college I didn’t take a lot of math. ‘cause with the psych degree, I think I only needed to take like one course. But after college I was like, well, I used to be good at math, so maybe I can teach it.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: So I did the alternative certification courses, but I needed like five more math courses. No, sorry, I think maybe like four.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: And one of them. And one of one of them was college algebra, which, you know, like I’m sure some people. We’re fine with it, but it was really awesome because I would get to class early and basically like tutor my classmates and, , it was just a lot of fun.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Math is cool. And also side note, don’t let your children say that they suck at math and don’t let them hear you say that

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: because it is, it is a self-fulfilling prophecy and you know, it’ll get stuck in their head and then they’ll just shut down in math class.

Jason: You mentioned, , Cuban dad,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Yeah,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: my parents are Cuban.

Jason: Yeah, how much

Jason: of

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: And Catholic. Not traumatizing at all.

Jason: I was gonna say, how much of that Cuban Catholic upbringing sort of influenced you as far as like your life and stuff?

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I mean,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: that, that’s

Jason: that’s admittedly hard and

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: you

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: joke

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: about it, but

Jason: like,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: what’s that , there was a lot of guilt. I don’t know. We are really close though, like since I’ve hit adulthood and everything, like, you know, we’ve got our road bumps and everything, but, like

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I was what, I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: guess the first generation

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: born in America in my family.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: So I’m like full-blooded Cuban.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: But I get teased cause I have an accent.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: you would think so. ‘cause I’m what, like the eldest of my family of, but no, There was always pressure to do well in school, but like I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: was

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: incredibly spoiled.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Like,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I’m

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: sad to

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: say

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: was

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: very spoiled. I was very

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: lucky as a kid. Um,

Jason: you got all

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: just, yeah, like my parents

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: just, what do they call?

Jason: L Barbie.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Oh my God, L Bario. Um,

Jason: Sounds

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: but like, you know, they wanna give you what they couldn’t have when they were younger.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: , My parents grew up like before Castro, and then like when he took over, that’s whenever like my dad, .

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: He tried to escape. ,, him and like a group

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: of his

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: friends

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: tried

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: to swim outta Cuba, but like one of

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: them started,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: yeah, they started.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: treading

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: water like

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: right

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: away.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: He’s like

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: too tired. So

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: they had to like, basically they were

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: trying

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: to

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: keep him from drowning basically. And so they got caught

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: and

Jason: Do you, hold on. Do you, do you

Jason: feel

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: that’s

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: something you

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: should maybe

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: for

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: maybe

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like

Robbie Wagner: practice

Robbie Wagner: swimming for a long

Robbie Wagner: time

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: time or Trained,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: how to swim. Yeah.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: no, I, you know, desperate times, I guess.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Um,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I don’t, but uh,

Robbie Wagner: Yeah.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: so then they were, they were in political prison,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: so

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: my

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: dad

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: was

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: screw

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: it,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I’m

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: gonna

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: do

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: this by myself

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: next time.

Jason: Could you imagine being like thrown in jail? ‘cause you can’t swim.

Jason: Like

Jason: your one

Jason: flaw in life was you didn’t

Robbie Wagner: Yeah.

Jason: lessons.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: guess

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: probably

Jason: different back then. Maybe the, they didn’t have A-Y-M-C-A like shark program or

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: yeah. I don’t think they have a YMC in Cuba. They like barely

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: have electricity, so,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: yeah, you, you laugh so you don’t cry. But no. So like, the second time he escaped, like he political prison is different ‘cause like he could like visit my mom at her house. ‘cause at this time they were already married. , So like he could go visit her and, you know, whatever.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: So he went to like the black market, got some flippers. , And then he

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: ended

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: up like swimming out

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: that night

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: and

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like, I think, I think it was like

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: five

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: hours

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: later.

Robbie Wagner: right. this

Robbie Wagner: is

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: not

Jason: funny, but

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: five

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: hours

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: later

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: he was picked up. No.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: my dad

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: could swim.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Which is funny because now he, like,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: before

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: he retired, he, so he worked on like the platforms and stuff like oil rigs and, , before he retired, like they had to do swim tests and stuff

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: in

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: case like

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: the

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: helicopter

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: fell

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: into

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: the

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: ocean

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: and stuff. and he,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: they put a red cap

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: on him

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: because they

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: were

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: you are a risk.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: We have to watch

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: for you.

Jason: I mean,

Jason: you

Jason: say

Jason: he can swim,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Florida coastline indicates other?

Jason: but he,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: No, but he, so he swam for five hours, , and then he got picked up, like it

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: was

Jason: Jesus.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: water. There were like

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: boats

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: patrolling,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: so

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: he’d have to

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like swim

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: underwater

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: and

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: then until

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: he got

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: past

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: them and like, yeah,

Jason: the waters are infested with the sharks.

Jason: Yeah.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Oh yes.

Jason: Wow. Geez.

Jason: yeah,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: you

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: know,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I don’t know.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Strong background.

Jason: uh, apparently, I mean,

Jason: I guess we

Jason: will kind

Jason: of pivot away from tech a little

Jason: bit

Jason: as

Jason: far

Jason: as

Jason: this

Jason: one, but

Jason: it’s like

Jason: how has that

Jason: influenced how you raise your kids?

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: because

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: think

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: we’ve all

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: also had

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: that

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: swim

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: lessons or

Jason: Yeah,

Robbie Wagner: are a, a priority.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Oh my gosh. With Sebastian’s fricking condition and L cleft and everything. Like

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: we put

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: them in

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: swim

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: class

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: and we, but it’s

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: ,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Make

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: sure he

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: doesn’t

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: swallow

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: too much water

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: because he’ll get pneumonia. Yeah, Well, I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: mean, because he has to drink thickened liquids.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Yeah. I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: can’t imagine. Yeah. He has to drink thickened liquids so like we’re supposedly we, he had surgery over the summer, but he keeps being sick, so we can’t test to see if the surgery

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: actually closed up

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: the cleft or not.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: , But yeah,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: he would still

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: have to

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: learn to swallow

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: thin like normal liquids like you, like we drink.

Jason: like wine.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: yeah,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Yeah. I don’t know, I think that like my dad’s like workaholic, perseverance stuff definitely has, stuck around

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: because obviously

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like without

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: that

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I wouldn’t be able to transition from one career to another while working a full-time job and raising a family. So,

Jason: as far as the transition goes, like why software engineer

Jason: specifically

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I think it’s the whole problem solving aspect of it. , Especially after like the tube feed tracker kind of took off in that community, , it really provided like the motivation to, be like, okay, Roxy, you’re on the right path. Like people, you’re, you know, and so whenever I like do a cover letter or like interview, I’m like, okay, well I want to do this, but on a bigger scale, you know, like I want to be able to impact.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: A greater amount of people, I like problem solving. It helps you and it helps me feel fulfilled.

Jason: The self-awareness moment. And Robbie, I’m gonna ask you the same question when she answer after she answers this.

Jason: , Biggest weakness and biggest strength?

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: feel like

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: they

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: might be

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: the

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: same

Jason: which is what?

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: the

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: don’t

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: stop

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: until

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: your body falls

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: apart.

Jason: Don’t stop until you get enough. Or

Jason: don’t stop,

Jason: believing.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: know. Yeah. I think it’s like

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I keep going

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: until,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: my eyes explode at CYCA couple weeks ago. I freaking never had allergies that bad. And I think it was only compounded by like, the stress of like leaving home, going to a conference, interviewing while I’m at the conference.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Just like

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: nonstop till your

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: body like

Jason: what’s the

Jason: goal of that

Jason: that you feel like you have to keep pushing?

Jason: So, okay.

Jason: No, I mean,

Jason: that,

Jason: that’s, that’s,

Jason: what

Jason: it is. But I mean, what’s the

Jason: job?

Jason: Do I think.

Jason: that’s

Jason: the bigger picture. It’s, It’s, the why

Jason: the

Jason: job

Jason: facilitates things for you. it’s

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: It’s not the,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: job, it’s

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: the

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: job

Jason: can provide for.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: So I like through this whole

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: journey

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: with a hundred Debs and Leon and everything like. , The community has helped me sort of realize that I am leaning more towards like, DeVere and community and, , so I feel like the fact that, like I already said, that I end up being a resource,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I don’t

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: know,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: really kind of

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: paves the

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: way towards

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: one of, a role in one of those environments.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: So, ,

Jason: I think it makes sense.

Jason: I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: mean,

Jason: you

Jason: have

Jason: the

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: education

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: background.

Jason: I mean,

Jason: I

Jason: feel

Jason: like

Jason: there’s

Jason: a

Jason: lot

Jason: of transferrable skills there, so

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: that’s

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: fair,

Jason: Robbie. All right. Biggest strength, biggest weakness.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: No. Fair. He had more time to prep

Robbie Wagner: I don’t know. My brain

Robbie Wagner: doesn’t work.

Robbie Wagner: That’s my weakness.

Robbie Wagner: Um, yeah, no, I think, my weakness is like not spending enough time like reacting too quickly to some

Robbie Wagner: things.

Robbie Wagner: With parenting

Robbie Wagner: or like dealing with people who aren’t doing what I want at work or whatever, like not being diplomatic enough to like take a breath and like, say the right thing

Robbie Wagner: necessarily. strength,

Robbie Wagner: uh, I don’t know. I like to work a lot, so,

Robbie Wagner: uh, like I

Robbie Wagner: code

Robbie Wagner: for fun after I code, so

Robbie Wagner: guess that’s a

Robbie Wagner: strength,

Robbie Wagner: a

Robbie Wagner: lot

Robbie Wagner: of

Robbie Wagner: output.

Jason: I feel

Jason: like a

Jason: lot

Jason: of people do that. I’ve noticed a

Jason: lot of

Jason: developers

Jason: hobby is developing.

Robbie Wagner: Yep.

Robbie Wagner: it

Robbie Wagner: is. Yeah.

Robbie Wagner: I mean, before kids it was easy. ‘cause like my wife’s like, I’m gonna watch this, whatever. And I’m like, I’m gonna code for

Robbie Wagner: five hours. yeah, now it’s, it’s harder ‘cause I’m like,

Robbie Wagner: I

Robbie Wagner: have

Robbie Wagner: one hour

Robbie Wagner: of free time.

Robbie Wagner: So I’m watching Law and Order SVU in this

Robbie Wagner: bitch.

Robbie Wagner: I’m

Robbie Wagner: not

Robbie Wagner: like,

Jason: Yeah, baby

Jason: Maloney, old

Jason: blue

Jason: eyes.

Robbie Wagner: no, he’s in a different law

Robbie Wagner: and order now,

Robbie Wagner: but he’s on a, , what is his?

Robbie Wagner: Called, I should know this, but I

Robbie Wagner: don’t. I’m

Robbie Wagner: embarrassed.

Jason: I, feel like you really dropped the ball there. Boom. Boom.

Jason: Whichever one.

Robbie Wagner: Whichever

Robbie Wagner: one.

Robbie Wagner: he’s on now. It’ll come to me at some point, but it’s on. Oh, peacock only. Like you can’t watch on NBC anymore and I don’t, I don’t pay for

Robbie Wagner: Peacock, so,

Jason: Elliot Stabler.

Jason: We need

Jason: him back

Jason: on

Jason: prime time. Fuck that premium stuff.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: watch

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Below Deck

Robbie Wagner: on

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: That’s my, that’s the

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: one show

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: that

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I even keep up with. It’s

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: it’s

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: complete

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: garbage, but

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: it’s

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: not

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: as

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: bad. That’s

Robbie Wagner: It’s a guilty pleasure. Yeah.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: not as

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: bad as like the house wise.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: yeah,

Jason: watched the Bachelor

Jason: series, so,

Robbie Wagner: to Love Island? That’s what I want.

Jason: oh,

Jason: I don’t even

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: it,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: but I like below deck cause

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: it’s

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: you

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: see

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: rich

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: people’s

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: lives

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: and

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: then you’re following the yacht crew that’s like serving them, like while they’re on the

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: boat.

Jason: like there’s a

Jason: height joke there somewhere that I

Jason: just cannot

Jason: get

Jason: right now.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Something below Deck

Jason: and your Tiny stature. Roxy, we have about two

Jason: minutes left. Okay.

Jason: And I

Jason: want to thank

Jason: you

Jason: for,

Jason: this

Jason: is

Jason: our first

Jason: IRL

Jason: Cabernet

Jason: commute. I

Jason: feel

Jason: like we

Jason: should

Jason: do these more. This is pretty

Jason: cool.

Jason: What’s

Jason: success look like to you?

Jason: the last

Jason: question, the final boss?

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: a job?

Jason: No,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: but really like,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like snagging, you know, my first role in tech and I know that like, I’ll still have to wake up at 4:00 AM for a while to like learn and like, you know, ramp up and onboard and, you know, know everything I need to know. For the role and you know, it’ll never stop.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: But

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: feel like,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: you

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: know,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: eventually

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I’ll

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: be

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: comfortable

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: enough, I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: can

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: sleep

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: until like,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: 4 45 and then go to the

Robbie Wagner: Wow. Sleeping in.

Jason: fucking slacker. I,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: well I still wanna go to the gym at five. Okay guys, I just, you know, I wish I

Jason: and you wanna get up at

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: could

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: do that.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Well, yeah, I live, I live,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like 10 minutes from the gym,

Jason: Right, And

Jason: you’re

Jason: somehow

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: envisioning

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: that you’re

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: gonna

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: be

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: ready

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: go in five

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: minutes. What

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: dream

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Uh, I

Robbie Wagner: I have

Jason: I

Jason: have

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: my gym

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: clothes

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: set

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: out.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: don’t

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: have to

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like do hair and

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: makeup or anything.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Yeah, I used to look,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: That is when I first

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: started

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: going to the gym at five in the morning.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I would sleep

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: in my

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: gym

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: clothes

Robbie Wagner: slowly.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: would

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: wake up early

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: enough to where I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: wouldn’t

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: have to sleep in

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: my gym clothes.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: But

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: that

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: is

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: how

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: did

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: it. That’s

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: how

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: started

Robbie Wagner: Yeah. I’m way

Robbie Wagner: too

Robbie Wagner: sleepy

Robbie Wagner: in the mornings I wake up, I’m like.

Robbie Wagner: At night, I’m like, you

Robbie Wagner: know

Robbie Wagner: what?

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I’m gonna work out at 6:00 AM I’m definitely gonna wake up.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I’m like, nah,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: there’s no way.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: five wake

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: up. no. no. I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like, normally,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: used

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: to

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: go to the gym at 5:00

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: PM and I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: think

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: my

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: hi, my tallest box jump was like 30 or 32 inches,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: which is almost half my

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: height, by the way.

Jason: tall as you, but

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: way I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: would ever

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: try that at five in the morning.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: Like

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: would

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: just

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: die

Jason: I’ve

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: death by box,

Jason: in the morning.

Jason: So it’s just, I, I can get

Jason: up early, I can do work,

Jason: but

Jason: I

Jason: couldn’t

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: work

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: out.

Jason: And I’m a runner

Jason: too,

Jason: so

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: it’s like I don’t, it’s

Jason: don’t, it’s

Jason: dark.

Jason: I

Jason: don’t,

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: competition going on with Noel, so

Jason: shout out

Jason: Noelle.

Jason: Shout out Leon. Noelle. Shout out a hundred devs.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: LGT.

Jason: over there. Um.

Jason: This has been really awesome. Where can people find you, Roxy, that don’t already have

Jason: all of your

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: um, I am Roxanna Codes on Twitter, and then for some reason my blue sky is different. It’s Roxy, rod, Beck.

Jason: That’s dumb.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I know.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: And then no, it’s

Jason: Just, I’m kidding.

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: I think that like a few people were like, wait, rod Beck isn’t your actual last name.

Jason: It’s not.

Jason: Apparently

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: It’s Becker.

Jason: today

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: That’s how my parents say Becker. That’s why I say it

Roxy Rodriguez-Becker: like that

Jason: do that again for the love

Jason: of God. Well, anyway, we’re gonna get off. Uh, whiskey Webb has another episode

Jason: featuring,

Jason: uh, the homie Nick Taylor,

Jason: who’s standing

Jason: right off

Jason: camera here with

Jason: the beautiful Patrick and Tater head. He’s shaking his head at me right now.

Jason: But

Jason: anyway, we’re signing off. Thank you again for everybody. I see Jeff and Rich. Rich was here, and Shannon and all the friends Linda would up. we, are you ready to sign off, Robbie?

Robbie Wagner: Yeah,

Jason: my co my, my end thing

Jason: here. It’s

Jason: nice

Jason: to

Jason: be

Jason: important,

Jason: but

Jason: it’s more

Jason: important to be

Jason: nice

Jason: Bye everybody

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